Story of personal journey as a carer

Everyone’s care journey is different. Here we explore the story of carer Sarah Bradshaw and her mum, Margaret

A special Mum

Everyone’s Mum is special to them, but I’ve always thought my Mum was extra special, as she didn’t give birth to me, but instead, chose me and adopted me at 6 days old.  She nursed me through childhood, complete with asthma and allergies, instilled me with a love for life, taught me to always do the right thing, as well as ensuring I had the ability to laugh at myself!  She encouraged me to work hard and was very proud of me when I qualified as a Nurse at the age of 35.

Heart failure and paperwork

A few years ago, my Mum’s health took a turn for the worse when she had a heart attack, was diagnosed with heart failure and had a pacemaker fitted. Before my Mum left hospital, she was given a card to carry around with her, so she could communicate that she had a pacemaker with health professionals in the future.  I didn’t know it at the time, but that was the first of probably over one hundred pieces of health documentation my Mum would go on to receive over the next few years.

In 2013, my Mum started experiencing many aches and pains and lost strength in her hands, finding it difficult to open things.  She was diagnosed with a condition called Polymyalgia Rheumatica and was given steroid tablets to help.  At this point, my Mum was handed another card to keep with her to say that she was taking steroids, which doctors would need to know about if treating my Mum for anything else in the future.

Becoming Mum’s Eyes and Ears

Later that year, something really frightening happened. My Mum woke up to blurred vision in her right eye, which gradually worsened during the day until she could hardly see. We live in Manchester and are lucky to be served by one of the best eye hospitals in the UK, A visit to their emergency clinic saw my Mum admitted to hospital straight away and she was treated with even stronger steroids via an infusion.  This treatment literally saved my Mum’s eyesight, not only restoring it completely, but also improving it.  On this occasion, she was diagnosed with Giant Cell Arteritis.

Managing multiple conditions

These conditions started to become a full time job for my Mum to manage. She regularly attended one hospital for the Polymyalgia Rheumatica, another for her heart check-ups and the eye hospital for the Giant Cell Arteritis. Each specialist was great in providing the support and treatment that my Mum needed. However, it became very apparent that each specialist was working pretty much in isolation and we found that we needed to be able to communicate and coordinate my mum’s care and treatment between each location, including with our GP

By this time, my Mum was on a lengthy list of medication and regularly having blood tests and scans. Some of the blood tests were duplicated by the different hospitals, so we started to carry around my Mum’s blood test results to her appointments to minimise how often she needed to have them.  Some of the doctors were clearly frustrated when they couldn’t access my Mum’s scan results, because they were on a different computer system at a different hospital, meaning that access to them would have to be requested in writing.

In the meantime, my Mum quite quickly became very deaf in both ears and was treated separately for this by an audiologist.  I was now attending most appointments with my Mum due to her impaired eyesight and hearing, so I could aid her communication with the doctors. At this point, we were carrying around with us a pack of my Mum’s medication, copies of test results, letters from other clinicians, the pacemaker implant card and the steroid treatment card.

More complications and managing day carers

Last year, one of the scans found a worrying mass in my Mum’s head.  It was originally identified as a slow-growing Meningioma, which should not require further treatment. However the mass grew and put too much pressure on my Mum’s optic nerve, resulting in loss of sight in her right eye.  This was extremely scary for my Mum, as she also had a cataract on her good eye.  Now her sight was very poor. The following year my Mum’s right eye had to be removed and we faced a new challenge: how to manage with a prosthetic eye.   I was my Mum’s main carer by then, with additional support from Bluebird Carers when I was at work.  Managing a prosthetic eye is very daunting for most people at first and I was worried that the Carers would be apprehensive about how to apply the eye drops and eye ointment,  which were essential to my Mum’s care. I wrote a guide for the carers, which showed what my Mum’s eye looked like and how the eye drops should be given. It included photos of me administering the eye drops, so that they knew exactly what to do. This guide forms a further part of my Mum’s personal health pack/record of medications, test results, letters etc. that we carry around with us.

With little sight and hearing, my Mum copes amazingly well ,but she then lost her sense of smell last year and this came as a further blow to my mum and made her feel down in the dumps.Every doctor and nurse that my Mum has been seen by has been brilliant and has given her the best care and treatment for the health issue they were treating. It wasn’t until we brought together my Mum’s full list of conditions and medications, however, that my Mum’s quality of life was saved.  Another health scare to my Mum’s remaining eye this year led to a new doctor looking at my Mum’s personal health record. He was able to connect all the dots together, and see that, with the exception of my Mum’s heart condition, all the other health conditions were actually just symptoms of a single disease, Vasculitis GPA.  This revelation meant my Mum received the right treatment in order to prevent further deterioration of her sight, smell and hearing, which was truly wonderful.  In fact, she has actually regained her sense of smell and couldn’t wait to enjoy a bacon sandwich again

Sharing is Caring

Paperwork Mum and I had to manage

Paperwork Mum and I had to manage!

I mentioned earlier that I am a qualified Nurse, but in fact, I specialise in health information technology to support patients and clinicians. I work with a small team of amazing people, who have developed a personal health record for mobile devices and tablets to help carers like me and people like my mum, who suffer from complex health conditions. This enables you to keep all health information together in one place and share it quickly and simply with health professionals to get better health and care.

 

 

 

 

sarah and margaretThis is me and my Mum today.  I am so proud of my Mum, of how tough she has been and how cheerful she has kept throughout all of these issues. I hope I have one tenth of her strength in the future.  Love you Mum, always xxx.

 

You can get further help and information from Evergreen Life

Evergreen Life is a health, wellbeing and fitness app, which brings information together in one place and allows the sharing of data between trusted family members, carers and healthcare professionals. Evergreen Life strives to support carers and improve their ability to act in the capacity of carer, by ensuring they can access critical information, ultimately benefiting their health and wellbeing, too. The Evergreen Life app is available on Apple and Android devices.

 

This article is a description of a personal journey of being a carer for a parent, written by Health Record specialist and trained Nurse, Sarah Bradshaw.

 

 

Leave a Response

You must be logged in to post a comment.

Other Care - Care Issues - Coping Articles

Caring for a parent with a terminal illness

17 Oct 17

If you are caring for someone who has been told they may not get better, you…

Caring for elderly from a distance: factsheet

27 Mar 17

What is caring at a distance? The fact that we are living longer is wonderful achievement….

Coping with loss of elderly independence

19 Mar 17

Loss of independence occurs as people age, as they suffer physical, social or emotional setbacks which…

Coping with Bereavement

10 Mar 17

Bereavement is a distressing but common experience. At some point, most of us will suffer the…

Caring for a parent with dementia

14 Feb 17

Watching a parent suffer with dementia is one of the hardest things you will ever do…

From our forum...

14 Sep 16 - beverley2203
13 Sep 15 - aob123

Shop Online - view all

Laybrook Ltd

Laybrook adjustable beds. Making a good night’s sleep an affordable reality. 0000

Find out more

My SOS Family

Keep your independence and mobility without fear. Your pendant will work outside, can be traced in…

Find out more

Pumpic app

Take сare of your elderly parents. Block unidentified calls and messages, track locations, set geo-fences, view…

Find out more